Attitude: The Silent Killer of Healthy Relationships

This season has been one of deep reflection and humbling lessons. My patience has been tested in ways I never expected. The Lord has truly sat me down, stripped me of distractions, and reminded me that my character must match my calling. For three months, everything around me was shaking my home, my finances, my relationships, even my peace. It felt like the foundation of my life was being rebuilt right before my eyes. And you know what? It was. God was pruning me, preparing me, and protecting me all at once. Through it all, I’ve learned to pause before I react, to listen before I speak, and to walk away when my peace is on the line. I’m no longer entertaining foolishness or people who play games with my time, my energy, or my spirit. Now, I’m responding differently. I’m speaking up. I’m setting boundaries. I’m saying no without guilt. I’m protecting my peace at all costs. Because I’ve learned that if you don’t fight for your peace, chaos will claim it. I’m focused on self-care, self-m...

Life has a way of throwing punches when you least expect it. For the last seven years, it felt like life wouldn’t stop swinging at me. I experienced grief, heartbreak, depression, the weight of caring for sick and dying parents, and the heavy responsibility of being a mother of four all while trying to keep my faith strong. I was the only girl in my family, so funerals, caregiving, comforting others it all fell on me. And to be honest, it got heavy. The Day Everything Changed In May of this year, my Facebook page was hacked and suspended for 180 days. Now, that might not sound like much to some people, but Facebook was a big part of my life. I had thousands of memories, a growing following, monetization, and a national group of over 500 women, my Push Sisters who connected through this platform. Losing it felt like losing a piece of myself. But here’s what I now realize: it was divine interruption. It was a fast I didn’t sign up for but desperately needed. That pause forced me to step ...

From Battles to Breakthrough: My Journey of Surrender, Healing, and FaitH Since 2018, it’s felt like life has been hitting me year after year. Blow after blow, loss after loss. Each year carried its own traumatic, life-changing experiences, and some seasons felt heavier than others. By 2020, I knew I had to find a way to survive and not just survive, but push through. That’s when I leaned fully into my brand, Push With Janay, using it not only to inspire others but to remind myself of my own strength. Then came 2022 the year that felt like the hardest of them all. Grief knocked at my door more than once. I faced painful losses, battles in my mind, changes to my body, and challenges with my finances. I took what felt like countless L’s, and yet… I kept pushing. But in 2025, something shifted. I decided to surrender. I surrendered to the Lord and made peace with the things I cannot change, while taking full responsibility for the things I can. I started moving differently. Speaking diffe...

For years, I was a strong friend.  The prayer warrior. The listener. The dependable one. The one who showed up even when my cup was bone dry. But this year, something shifted. I hit a breaking point. And what I discovered in that moment… changed everything. I went through one of the most traumatic seasons of my life and the silence from someone I considered a friend was deafening. No text. No check-in. No “Are you okay?” When she finally responded, her words were honest but piercing. She admitted she didn’t want to face my pain. She avoided the conversation. Meanwhile… I was drowning. Alone. That moment didn’t break me.   It woke me up. I realized I’ve spent years holding space for others but rarely asking for space myself. So instead of becoming bitter, I made a choice:   to become better. That’s when   PUSH Empowerment   was born. This isn’t just a coaching brand it’s a   movement   for the strong friend, the silent sufferer, the woman who always sho...

Lately, I’ve been living a life of surrender “Lord, I surrender” has become my daily declaration. So much has happened that I know could only be the hand of God. Once I truly let go and let Him lead, my entire life began to shift.  I’ve started trusting God more deeply. I’ve been going to therapy, and between that and my faith, I’ve found a much-needed balance. Some of the most unexpected things have been happening in my life lately. Things I can’t explain but I don’t question the path God is leading me on. I feel His peace, and I see His glory in motion. The things I once struggled with, cried over, and worried about have all somehow worked out in my favor. It’s true what they say: “You don’t look like what you’ve been through.” My hardships didn’t break me or show on me. And the very doors I tried to force open that wouldn’t budge? Now I understand why. I’m thankful for every “no,” every delay, every detour because where I’m standing today feels like the beginning of something beaut...

There’s a deep, undeniable superpower in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. Whether it’s a friendship, a long-standing bond with a family member, or even a romantic relationship. Release can be the beginning of true peace. We often cling to relationships because of history, love, or shared blood. But not everyone who grew up with you will grow with you. And when you start choosing yourself, your peace, your sanity, your healing; you begin to understand that letting go isn’t a loss. It’s liberation. Yes, you can still love people. You can love them deeply… from a distance. You can forgive them, pray for them, and even wish them well, but still create necessary space. It’s not cold-hearted. It’s called self-love. Long-term connections can be beautiful, but let’s be honest, they can also become toxic. When a bond begins to drain you, confuse you, or hold you back from who you’re becoming, it’s time to pause and ask: Is this helping me grow, or is it keeping me stuck? Le...