Moving Accordingly: A New Season of Freedom

There comes a moment when you realize that everything you went through wasn’t meant to break you, it was meant to teach you how to move differently.

Over the past year and a half, I’ve walked through grief, disappointment, anxiety, depression, and deep discomfort. I’ve sat in spaces where I felt unseen. I’ve shown up when I was empty. I’ve poured into people and situations that could not pour back. And for a long time, I questioned myself, my heart, my decisions, my worth.

But God was working.

Every tear, every hard conversation, every lonely season was shaping my discernment. It taught me how to pause. How to listen. How to choose myself without guilt. How to make better decisions, not just emotionally, but spiritually, mentally, and physically.

Now, I move differently.

I protect my time.

I honor my energy.

I guard my strength.

I respect my money.

I no longer overextend myself for people who cannot meet me with the same care. And the truth is, there’s no anger in that. There’s no bitterness. There’s only understanding.

God showed me who was there for me.

God showed me who wasn’t.

God showed me what I was holding onto that was quietly draining me.

And instead of being mad, I chose to be grateful.

Grateful for clarity.

Grateful for redirection.

Grateful for answered prayers that didn’t look the way I expected.

I’ve learned that I can’t expect me from others. Everyone is navigating their own journey, their own wounds, their own capacity. Some people simply could not serve me the way I served them and that’s okay. I forgive them fully. Not for them, but for me.

Forgiveness has made me lighter.

I feel it in my spirit.

I feel it in my body.

I feel it in the way I breathe now.

I’m no longer matching energy. I’m moving accordingly.

That means choosing peace over chaos.

That means choosing joy without explanation.

That means removing distress, even when it’s familiar.

And now, I’m stepping into a new version of myself. One that smiles again. One that dances again. One that puts on makeup just because it feels good. One that wears clothes that reflect how she feels, not how she’s surviving.

Head up.

Shoulders back.

Heart open.

I’m choosing confidence, not perfection.

I’m choosing happiness, not hustle.

I’m choosing alignment, not obligation.

This is me moving forward with grace, faith, and intention.

And if this season taught me anything, it’s this:

When God changes your direction, it’s always for your protection.

Here’s to moving differently.

Here’s to feeling free.

Here’s to becoming lighter.

And here’s to everything ahead.

I need you.

You need me.

Push with Janay and we’ll all be ok.