Attitude: The Silent Killer of Healthy Relationships

Some nights are the hardest. Waking up gasping for air, feeling nauseous, as if the world is collapsing in on itself. It’s been like this ever since the day I found my pops. Losing him broke me in ways I never could have anticipated. The sight and smell of that moment still lingers, like an unwanted shadow that refuses to fade. Grief and trauma aren’t easy to walk through. It’s like carrying a heavy load uphill with no end in sight. I praise God for giving my dad peace, knowing that he’s no longer in pain. But for me, peace feels distant, buried under layers of anxiety and sleepless nights. Anxiety is real, and it has a way of creeping up on you when you least expect it, testing your faith, testing your strength. You think you’ve got a handle on it, practicing self-care, going through the motions, trying to rebuild yourself, piece by piece. But some days, it feels like a façade. It feels like I’m faking my way through life, pretending to be okay while drowning on the inside. That’s whe...

We’ve all experienced it: seeing a need, knowing we have the answer, and yet somehow being overlooked. It’s frustrating, confusing, and, at times, it makes us question our worth. We wonder, “Why am I not being chosen? Why can’t they see that I have what it takes?” These thoughts can chip away at our confidence and make us feel like we aren’t good enough, even when we know in our hearts we are. If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. The key to overcoming this challenge is reframing your experience, understanding your worth, and staying resilient in the face of rejection. Here’s how you can push through when you feel like you’re being overlooked: 1. Reflect, Don’t Dwell First, it’s important to recognize that being overlooked is not necessarily a reflection of your worth. There can be countless reasons why you weren’t chosen—many of which have nothing to do with your abilities. Ask yourself: Is this a result of circumstances beyond my control? Could there be political or logisti...

Grieving is a heavy burden, and it comes in many forms. We grieve lost loved ones, failed plans, the old versions of ourselves, and sometimes even our own expectations. But through it all, I’ve learned that we can still trust God. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. Grieving while believing—these two seem like contradictions at first. How can we trust and grieve simultaneously? How do we mourn what’s lost and still hold onto hope? It all comes down to faith, but also to mindset. We have to learn how to P.U.S.H.—Pray Until Something Happens—and keep moving, no matter how much life feels like it’s caving in on us. Grieving the Old You We often grieve the people we once were. Maybe we look back and see all the missteps or wish we had made different choices. Grieving the old you is tough, but that’s part of the journey toward trusting God. You’re shedding the weight of who you were to become who He’s calling you to be. And that process? It’s messy. It’s painful. But we have to learn to let g...

Sometimes life can feel like it’s coming at you nonstop. It’s as if every obstacle, every challenge, is piling up—one right after the other. You might feel like you’re drowning, gasping for air, asking yourself, “When will I finally be able to breathe?” It’s easy to feel attacked in these moments, like the world is against you, but maybe it’s not the people around you. Maybe it’s not life playing you. If you change your mindset shift from what I call “stinking thinking” you can start to see things differently. What if all of these obstacles, all of these moments that feel like too much, are actually God testing you? Testing to see how much you trust Him, even when the weight feels unbearable, even in the middle of your storm. It’s easy to say “trust the process,” but let me be real, it’s not easy to live out. Trusting the process is hard as hell. It’s uncomfortable, it’s frustrating, and it stretches you to limits you didn’t even know you had. But I’ve come to understand that in the mi...

When making a decision, you need to use spirit of discernment because you never know who to trust, what decision to make is right or wrong, because salt and sugar looks the same. When making the best decision for yourself, it may not always please other people. It may not be the option that's popular in demand, but you have to go where you're most fed, where your cup is being filled. The best decision is what makes you feel good. The best decision is the decision that pleases you, that gives you hope, that makes you feel alive. And everyone may not agree with that decision, but it's your life and your life is what you make it. So have spirit of discernment when making your decisions because you have to trust yourself and trust God's process, and then you'll be happy, and it will last longer. Trust your instincts.