Attitude: The Silent Killer of Healthy Relationships

There’s a process to realignment, especially when you pray and ask God to reveal what no longer serves you so you can step into the next level of your life. When you ask God to realign you to realign your life by removing people, places, and things that no longer fuel you. He will answer. But be ready, because that answer comes with clarity, and clarity comes with responsibility. After fasting and seeking God’s direction, He made it undeniably clear what I needed to let go of. So, I started moving. I made up my mind. I began purging throwing away things, cutting ties, and even discarding gifts that carried unhealthy attachments. But as I did, a new emotion crept in anger. I became angry not just at the situation, but at myself. Angry for all the time I had poured into things that drained me instead of fueling me. Angry for allowing myself to settle, to stay too long, to hold onto things I should have released long ago. And yet, even in that anger, there was relief. A weight was lifting...

The last few years have been some of the most challenging of my life. I’ve endured life-changing trauma, the kind that reshapes who you are in ways you never expected. Loss, grief, drastic life changes it all hit me in waves, and before I knew it, I was drowning. I lost people I considered family, some to death, some to life’s changing seasons. I went through major surgeries that forced me to slow down. I watched my parents’ health decline right before my eyes. My career shifted, my income changed, and then, the moment that altered everything I found my father deceased. Just days later, my mother was admitted to the hospital after suffering a stroke. Suddenly, I was planning a funeral while still trying to catch my breath. Trauma like that doesn’t just affect you emotionally, it manifests in ways you don’t even notice at first. My social skills started shifting I became more withdrawn, more hesitant, less myself. My appearance changed. I stopped caring as much. Grief, stress, and survi...