Attitude: The Silent Killer of Healthy Relationships

In today’s world, where growth and change are constant, the phrase “no new friends” feels limiting and outdated. At 45, I’ve come to appreciate the beauty of forming connections in every stage of life. Friendships aren’t static they evolve, deepen, or sometimes drift apart. And that’s okay. Each phase of life brings new experiences, and with them, new people who align with your journey. Think about it: as we grow, our interests and priorities shift. For example, embarking on a fitness journey may lead you to workout buddies who motivate and challenge you. Discovering your personal style might connect you with friends who share your fashion sense and inspire you to express yourself. In your career, new opportunities might introduce you to mentors or colleagues who push you toward success. Each type of friendship serves a purpose, enriching your life in ways your older connections may not. Let’s not forget the importance of trust and mutual support. While it’s natural to feel most comfor...

As Black women, we face unique challenges. Often, these struggles start early in childhood. Jealousy, competition, and divisions can take root as early as elementary school. Whether it’s rooted in something as trivial as skin tone light skin versus dark skin or who receives more attention, these early experiences can shape how we relate to one another as adults. Many of us have faced bullying for reasons beyond our control: being the girl the boys liked, dressing a little better, or simply standing out. These actions often stem from jealousy and insecurities that shouldn’t exist, but unfortunately, they persist. The hope is always that as we grow older, these behaviors will fade. But too often, they follow us into adulthood. Even now, as grown women, we see these issues manifest in subtle and overt ways. While the rise of women empowerment movements is inspiring, we cannot ignore the lingering realities of colorism, featurism, and texturism within our community. The unfairness of these...

In the journey to get ahead, Black women often find themselves caught in an exhausting paradox. We’re told we’re the neck of the head the ones who keep the world upright and steady. We work tirelessly, hold down our homes, and push forward brilliant ideas, many of which are foundational to the spaces we work in. Yet, the praise, the promotions, and the recognition seem always to be reserved for someone else. We remain in the shadows, celebrated in whispers but seldom acknowledged in the bright light we deserve. For centuries, Black women have been the backbone of communities, industries, and families, and yet society continues to place barriers in our paths, demanding we walk a delicate line between confidence and humility. If we shine too brightly, we’re labeled; if we dim our light, we’re often overlooked. So how do we strike the balance? How do we hold on to our worth and purpose when the world consistently undercuts us? The Weight of Invisible Labor The term “invisible labor” migh...

Sometimes, life hits us with challenges we never saw coming. Just when we think things are getting easier, another obstacle can show up, making us feel like we’re taking two steps back. It’s in these moments that we have a choice: we can let life’s challenges keep us down, or we can stand up and keep fighting.But let’s be real it’s not always easy. Moving forward can be tough, and there are days when it feels like all we do is fight to keep going. And that’s okay. It’s okay to acknowledge the struggle, to feel the weight of what you’re carrying, but remember that every step forward, no matter how small, counts.The truth is, life will always throw something at us. The good news is that with every challenge, we become stronger and learn more about who we are and what we’re capable of. Think of every setback as a test that’s preparing you for something greater.So, when life happens and it always will try to focus on how you respond. Take a deep breath, keep moving, and know that you’re no...